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I dunno, I've never given your sincerity much thought. I just know that when I ask my significant other his or her opinion about something I've produced, I'd love to hear that it's brilliant if it's brilliant, but I'd much rather hear carefully worded constructive criticism than get sunshine blown up my ass because my lover is too much of a wuss to share an opinion.
If I ask my S.O. if what I'm about to wear in public is unflattering (notice that I didn't say "does it make me look fat?" That's a bogus, loaded question.), I would rather hear, "maybe a darker top?" than, "You look beautiful, dear. Can we go now?"
Perhaps I'm just weird.
My "Significant Other" at the time was a 15 stone , ginger student nurse from a family with a history of Alcoholism, which she seemed hell bent on keeping intact.
The fact the relationship lasted beyond a week is testament to the fact that i can put someone at ease in a conversation, whether it be through anecdotes on life, or through blatant lying such as "Youre not fat , i wouldnt go out with a fat girl" , or "Yes , sex with you is great".
The relationship broke down because she had a one night stand when she was drunk , and convinced herself that the guy in question was obviously more worthwhile than me because he had a job with the government.
You know that guy who comes up with "I work for the foreign office , im really a kinda spy" line.
It worked on her. I ended the relationship. Needless to say he dumped her less than a week later when he went back on manouevers (He was actually a squaddie with delusions of grandeur).
I dont regret the relationship LadyJ , not for one minute. As i see it , the relationship worked for as long as it did because i , as you put it , "Didnt have the balls to tell her what i really thought" , and instead chose to build her self confidence , which im sure youll agree ,a lot of larger women simply dont have.
Suffice to say that i havent dated a larger woman since , because i honestly dont want another relationship where all i do is constantly reassure my other half.
And if this makes me insincere , so be it.
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"Life Sucks, Then you Die. The bit inbetween isnt very funny either"