When it comes to addressing someone who you don't know personally in life, you address them as Mr. Lastname or Ms. Lastname, correct?

So why should the internet be any different?

If someone who doesn't know me personally addresses me as Gia, I take it as somewhat of an insult. I mean, most people ask "What do you like to be called?" before addressing me as Gia. Since I'm not going to just offer up my last name to anyone on the internet, I would expect them to call me attitudechicka, as that is the closest to a formal name as you can have on the internet.

Even persons from this site have called me attitudechicka for a while before shortening it to A_Chicka, then to Chicka, then the select few who call me by one of my nicknames/my first name.

I also think that your mouse should be on the right side of your computer keyboard, which should be directly in front of your monitor and you should have a drink of some kind to the left.

Mind your computer manners!

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Mediocrity at its most average.

Sorry mom.

*serves a timeout

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I dumb :D

Calm down, Gia.

Actually, this is no longer the way you do it in Denmark. If you address a stranger with their last name or say the equivalents of Mr. and Ms., you'd sound extremely formal, and it's almost only the members of parliament or waiters who do like that.

If I for example visit a prospective customer and we introduce, we'll present ourselves with our first names. The "What do you like to be called" routine has no place anymore.

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troelsea at gmail dot com

Then your formality is to call the person by the name they give you. For example, a customer is called Robert. You say Hello, my name is lukket, and I would be happy to assist you today. Robert says Hello, my name is Robert, and I am looking for such item. You continue to call him Robert, not Bob or Bobby or Bob-meister. It's not much different from what I'm saying.

I present myself on the internet as "attitudechicka". I expect to be referred to as attitudechicka, A_Chicka, Chicka or another variation (because I know computer users are lazy with their lols and such), not my first name, unless I say "Please, call me Gia." or along those lines.

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Mediocrity at its most average.

Yeah, people can be assholes, but I'm sure they dont mean any harm by it.

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Poo perhaps?

I met a pro-wrestler (his character name is Raven) and I had heard before hand that he had a real thing about people not calling him by his real name. His reasoning was that his real name (Scott) was for his personal life and if you don't know him personally then you should refer to him by the name that you know him as (Raven). Anywho, it felt a little silly to call him 'Raven' but I did it because I knew he had a thing about it.

I did find his reasoning a little silly, though. I mean, I don't know Tom Cruise personally but I'm also not going to call him Cole Trickle (his character in Days of Thunder) either.

That being said, I like Chicka a great deal and will call her whatever she wants to be called.

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Peeing sitting down is the gift you give yourself.

Agree with chicka.

Recruitment consultants see my CV (resumé) on-line all the time, then make me cringe and hate them by using my real first name in every other sentence on the phone when they call.

In any circumstance, it's hell of impersonal when your name is used too often and/or inappropriately with someone you've just met.

Also they pronounce "jes_" as "Jess" and not "Jez" - the underscore makes it a hard consonant. Eejits.

I think I know what names to use in September, which can only be good.

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Please replace the handset, and try again.

I want to be known as Gorbo the Awesome.

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Dad was flammable

disagree with attitudechicka

the only legitimate reason for etiquette is to convey to the person you are speaking that you respect their limits and respect huamnlife in general

the problem is that it completely shits on individuality so what you have is a bunch of people who like the formalism trying to pass it off that this is how it should be for everyone. and those like me that couldn't give a preggo fuck are pressured to conform like sheep. fuck that. do it on an individual level. don't try to create some all-encompassing rules, instead say, 'i personally preferred to be called attitudechicka online until you've gotten to know me better' and i'll say 'i personally don't care so call me whatever you want' and HCRoyall will say 'i prefer to be called Thor, King of the Jungle of Love.'

going that route not only conveys respect for limits, but it also allows for individuality, both yours and my own

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what if nigger meant kite

"Call me by my dream name." -- Linda Blair in Exorcist II

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I was gonna send a robot back in time, but I got high.

What? So lefties are being rude by existing?

Since I work in education, it's still quite common to call people Mr/Ms/Mrs, especially in public meetings or whenever around students. Because it's so common, it's really jarring to me when someone I don't know calls me and addresses me by my first name. Whenever I call a parent or some other govt bureaucrat whom I don't know, I always address them formally until they tell me not to.

I was also like that when I worked in the private sector--if some sales guy was cold-calling me, he'd better show some respect. To me, the sales strategy that says people like to hear the sound of their own names or you create an instant rapport if you seem to be on a friendly, first-name basis is BS--you have to earn that.

The guy who inspired this comic, called me by my first name, mister [last name], and sir in each sentence in the numerous voicemails he left me. I got mad at him because he wouldn't stick with one.

[Click to view comic: 'Know Your Enemy']

My name is David, or Dave. I don't have a preference between David or Dave. I used to be only a Dave. Then I was only a David. Now I don't care. There are two things that bother me about people and my name.

99.9% of people do this when we meet:
Him: Hi, I'm William.
Me: Nice to meet you, William. I'm David.
Him: Hi, Dave.

Even though I don't care, that's just rude. I didn't say nice to meet you Billy or Bill or Liam or Will or Willy or Willum or Iam or Weewee, because he told me his name was William. Once you get to know me, call me what you like, but until then say it like I do.

And the second one you'd probably only find in the southwest USofA. People that call me "Dah-veed". There's a friend of Rob, my co-worker, who comes in several times a week to talk to Rob. He never calls him Rob, though. He calls him Roberto. And he calls me Dah-veed. He has never called me anything but Dah-veed. I wish he were dead.[/i][i]

>_< that's like my employer for the first 6 mos I was employed called me "Shelly" without my permission (the name is Michele IRL... call me any name other than Noonie and you die slowly and painfully with my hand jammed through your rib cage) Finally she asked me one day if that bothered me and I said "yes". She now calls me Mimi. o_o

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I will rate you hard, and unendingly.

Are you sure you want to take such extreme measures? I mean, how much worse a world we would be living in if you had gone up to Paul McCartney and told him he had to start putting out crap like "Noonie Mabelle, some Le Mans key bong tray bean ensemble"? That just makes no sense!

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ken.kaufman@gmail.com

you should never give out your real name online, Ms. IRL

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what if nigger meant kite

I know that the 3rd step to Tony Robbins pyramid of success says that you must memorize each and every person that you meat, liver. I skip that step and proceed to call people; Chief, Boss, Bud, Hammer, and the always-flattering moose knuckle. Heed my advice and you too will be investigated by the Department of Justice or your local district attorney. I hope this helps, Gia, uh chick. Attitudechicka, rather. Don't mind me. I'm sorry. I love you all.

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person's name...that you meat! I have failed Mr. Robbins. I'm sure that I will be picked up by a crew of tall men with large, white, fake teeth. God give me the strength. Damn you alcohol! You've impaired my abilities to make coherent funny! AAAGGGGHHH!!

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obscenity filter is off

You may still call my Spanky, Ms. Puddin-Hips.

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"Jelly-belly gigglin, dancin and a-wigglin, honey that's the way I am!" Janice the Muppet

Re: Account # 14392R
I find it a bit worrying that some stranger happens to know a personal account number of mine. On top of that apparently a qualify for some sort of loan. I think they said 2.5% on a 400k loan. Sounds pretty good. To bad my name wasn't mrpottedmeat. Shucks.

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obscenity filter is off

This is exactly what I mean. When people I barely know call me by my first name, it actually kind of makes me feel guilty. They've taken the time to find out my first name and I still can't distinguish mandingo from biped some days.

I didn't mean to offend anyone by this thread. As choad mentioned, it's jarring to be called by your first name by someone you're pretty sure you don't know. Though it's embarassing when you should know them, like an exboyfriend who sees you walking through Target and you call him "Fred", "Mark", "Xander" but never remember until you're walking away that his name is actually "Don". *blushes*

Not to say that I don't want to get to know you, it's just that right now I have the least amount of time to get to know the new strippers. I'm on yahoo all day at work if you'd like to chat it up sometime, however I still do actually have to work sometimes.

And yes, ivy, I am very much against left handed people. They're weird. And to further my frustation with southpaws, I think my son might be becoming a lefty.

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Mediocrity at its most average.

Left-handed people are the only ones in their right mind.

But I was brought up that you didn't call someone by their first name unless they introuced themselves as such, and even so I find myself calling older people sir and ma'am rather than their first names.

Maybe I'm just old-fashioned. I don't know. Personally I don't care what people call me, since almost nobody can pronounce my name right anyway. But I'm not going to call you Gia when I don't know you from some internet bot. It just doesn't sit right with me.

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It was such a waste of everyone’s time and money that even the Tokyo stadium’s rape robots apologized– something they were programmed specifically never to do.

i took that as a compliment. biped rocks my world. i just wish he wasn't such a homophobe and would suck my dick already

but you don't have to worry about confusing us much longer. he wins too many contests. i'm goin to kill him

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what if nigger meant kite

My solution to all this is I never call anyone by their name (in person). Usually because I can't remember. I hate it when people use my name at all when they're talking to me (in person). I don't know why. I'll use someone's name if I'm referring to them while talking to someone else (in person) but only the name I was introduced to. most of the time I say "the guy with the hair" or "the chick with the shirt."Cause unless it's someone I give a rat's ass about on some level, I don't care enough to learn a name.